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Post by you*hear*but*do*you*listen on Oct 22, 2010 11:03:22 GMT -5
Okay...so I've identified as repulsed ever since I joined AVEN and found out there was a repulsed label. However, in recent months I've discovered that I'm not repulsed by all sex acts; what really squicks me is/are either straight sex acts or male/male sex acts. Being homoromantic and experiencing secondary sexual desire for my fiancee, I'm really not repulsed by the idea of sex with a woman. And, well, just last night/early this morning my relationship with my fiancee became sexual. And I was completely comfortable with it. There could not have been less squick.
So basically I'm wondering if there's anyone else out there who identifies as repulsed but only by certain sex acts, or even who is okay with certain sex acts.
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Post by ocelotofdoom on Oct 23, 2010 20:50:26 GMT -5
I'm more bothered by the idea of sex with someone I like or care about than I am about random sex between people I don't know. Sex between me and someone I don't know (well) is still a giant "Do Not Want," but not as much as with someone I'm actually close with. Even the idea of sex with someone I really don't like doesn't quite bother me as much. I think that's because, while I'm used to the negative reaction I have towards someone I don't like, and I'm used to how I don't like the idea of sex in general, trying to imagine someone I like in a sexual way messes with my usually positive associations with that person. It might also involve how, if that person were to have sex with me, it would be a huge violation of my trust (or hypothetical trust, if it's a fictional character), and I could no longer like or respect them if that were to happen.
Hearing about most sex acts in the abstract, out of the context of familiar people doing them, doesn't really squick me to the same extent that it seems to other people. Maybe I don't have the experience or knowledge to mental image it as easily as others? I'm not sure.
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Post by murray on Oct 29, 2010 18:24:57 GMT -5
I'm definitely repulsed by any kind of sexual acts involving me. With other people, though, I'm totally indifferent. I'm not going to be bothered if my friends describe to me in detail whatever they did, not that they would. I'd be annoyed, yes, and bored, but not repulsed.
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Post by sciatrix on Nov 2, 2010 6:41:18 GMT -5
And then there's me, who doesn't identify as repulsed but who has been known to have some pretty "eeeeeeeew, get it away" reactions to certain visual stimuli. Especially in a space which feels sexualized, for lack of a better term.
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Post by you*hear*but*do*you*listen on Nov 2, 2010 9:29:35 GMT -5
I think I'm now identifying as "repulsed-unless-my-fiancee-is-involved".
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Post by noelandvoid on Nov 3, 2010 18:08:40 GMT -5
Yep, I'm repulsed by some but not all though I don't identify as "repulsed." The idea of sex involving me = Eeyew, gross most of the time. Other people having gay/lesbian sex? Totally fine and dandy. Other people having straight sex? Eh, I find it pretty gross to look at but whatever floats people's boats as long as I don't have to watch or participate. XD Me having sex with a woman I really loved would be okay though I think, as long as it wasn't made out to be a huge deal.
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Post by demacrux on Feb 19, 2011 16:33:30 GMT -5
I don't know I suppose I could identify as repulsed but I generally don't care about what other people do I suppose I'm not necessarily repulsed but the idea of me actually doing anything to anyone or anyone doing anything to me rather creeps me out. I think the act itself is a matter more of awkward hilarity for some reason..
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