Post by murray on Dec 31, 2010 4:40:39 GMT -5
I wasn't sure where to put this, but I'm sure this'll do.
So I was thinking that since this a small community, it would be a nice opportunity to get this all out there once instead of mentioning it occasionally after or during the fact, or endlessly worrying myself over it whenever I post.
I'm a little preoccupied, no, better consumed with the need for accuracy, thoroughness, meticulousness and understanding regarding all things. I get very frazzled, occasionally freaked out, by miscommunication or possible errors in accuracy. The idea that anybody might misinterpret what I say as thoughtless, or disrespectful, or just plain wrong, is horrifying to me.
On an written forum like this, the situation is rife for misunderstandings, and I spend a lot of time trying to be sure that my posts are correct, accurately display my feelings and thoughts in a comprehensible manner, and cannot be read the wrong way. Needless to say, this is a rather hopeless task, as even all the contingencies my mind can think of cannot be allowed for if I want to be at all concise. I try to add in the minimum amount of "...except in certain circumstances," "not necessarily all, but rather...," "for the sake of brevity I am not considering the following factors:," and other like qualifiers. I think about words to make sure they are strictly accurate in context and although I know that nobody is going to be offended or point out some semantic error, my mind fears that they will anyway.
So I apologize for any length, confusion, and unnecessary qualifications, or anything I did not qualify that I should have, or anything else. I always mean to be polite, respectful, accurate, and all-considering. If I only respond with stuff about me and my experiences, it's because talking about other peoples', or theory in general (generalizations are not verities), is so hard and prone to error. I apologize, although there's no need, for if I ever back out a tricky discussion or misunderstanding; it's not because I don't want to participate or bother, it's just that I don't feel able to navigate and don't want to make it worse.
Anyway, this is a bit of a 'thing' for me, so sorry about the length. I'm not trying to lay the burden on those who read my posts, I just ask for tolerance.
And, if there's anything you notice that I could change to communicate better, please, please point it out to me.
So I was thinking that since this a small community, it would be a nice opportunity to get this all out there once instead of mentioning it occasionally after or during the fact, or endlessly worrying myself over it whenever I post.
I'm a little preoccupied, no, better consumed with the need for accuracy, thoroughness, meticulousness and understanding regarding all things. I get very frazzled, occasionally freaked out, by miscommunication or possible errors in accuracy. The idea that anybody might misinterpret what I say as thoughtless, or disrespectful, or just plain wrong, is horrifying to me.
On an written forum like this, the situation is rife for misunderstandings, and I spend a lot of time trying to be sure that my posts are correct, accurately display my feelings and thoughts in a comprehensible manner, and cannot be read the wrong way. Needless to say, this is a rather hopeless task, as even all the contingencies my mind can think of cannot be allowed for if I want to be at all concise. I try to add in the minimum amount of "...except in certain circumstances," "not necessarily all, but rather...," "for the sake of brevity I am not considering the following factors:," and other like qualifiers. I think about words to make sure they are strictly accurate in context and although I know that nobody is going to be offended or point out some semantic error, my mind fears that they will anyway.
So I apologize for any length, confusion, and unnecessary qualifications, or anything I did not qualify that I should have, or anything else. I always mean to be polite, respectful, accurate, and all-considering. If I only respond with stuff about me and my experiences, it's because talking about other peoples', or theory in general (generalizations are not verities), is so hard and prone to error. I apologize, although there's no need, for if I ever back out a tricky discussion or misunderstanding; it's not because I don't want to participate or bother, it's just that I don't feel able to navigate and don't want to make it worse.
Anyway, this is a bit of a 'thing' for me, so sorry about the length. I'm not trying to lay the burden on those who read my posts, I just ask for tolerance.
And, if there's anything you notice that I could change to communicate better, please, please point it out to me.
