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Post by you*hear*but*do*you*listen on Jan 8, 2011 16:07:21 GMT -5
Okay, so...my partner attempted to break up with me. We'd been engaged, but she wanted to spend some time as friends as opposed to lovers because her life is kind of exploding right now--her future, particularly in relation to grad school and jobs, is really up in the air right now--and she felt like "keeping [me] sane" was really stressing her out, and she felt like she wasn't ready to give me everything I needed. I managed to convince her that all she had to do to keep me sane was love me, and that whatever problems we have can be worked out, so we're still together...but she has to figure herself out, and though she is convinced that we are perfect for each other and will be together in the end, right now she doesn't want to put a label on what we are--besides, you know, in love--and she might date other people should the opportunity present itself. (She insists nothing would ever come of it, and I'm pretty sure she wants to prove to herself that I'm the best person for her by going out with other people, but...nrgh.) So there's a period of uncertainty going on here, and it's really hard for me, and anything not directly related to me dealing with this situation and/or helping my partner work out her braincrazies--including this site and asexual visibility--is really going on the back burner. So if it feels like I've fallen off the face of the Earth, that's why.
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Post by murray on Jan 8, 2011 19:44:03 GMT -5
Please, take all the time you need and all our best wishes and good luck figuring these things out. We're all here for for you!
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Post by sciatrix on Jan 8, 2011 21:36:52 GMT -5
Oh, jeez, that must be a really upsetting situation for you. Yeah, I get that on everything else going on the back burner. I hope it works out between you and that you get through this period of instability through okay.
As Murray says, we're here for you. Internet hugs if you want them?
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Post by ocelotofdoom on Jan 9, 2011 1:46:26 GMT -5
Jesus Christ. D: That sounds really stressful. *hugs* I'm sorry to hear about that. Let me know if I can do anything support-wise.
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Post by you*hear*but*do*you*listen on Feb 16, 2011 11:42:42 GMT -5
*sigh* My partner and I are back together. Not engaged anymore, because she's going to Officer Candidate School for the Navy and doesn't know if marriage is on the cards for her considering the lingering effects of DADT, but we're back together and never want to be separated again.
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