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Post by ocelotofdoom on Oct 14, 2010 1:45:59 GMT -5
TVTropes has termed liking a fictional character in an asexual way as "Perverse Asexual Cuddlelust." It is described here: tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/Main/PerverseAsexualCuddlelustDoes experiencing "Perverse Asexual Cuddlelust" (specifically, having asexual "crushes" on fictional characters) have any bearing on whether one is romantic or aromantic? What, if anything, does it mean if one has experienced this but has not experienced the same thing towards real people? Also, feel free to discuss any experience of your own in this thread.  |
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Post by you*hear*but*do*you*listen on Oct 14, 2010 14:32:51 GMT -5
I'll reply seriously after I stop laughing hysterically at the phrase "Perverse Asexual Cuddlelust."
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Post by sciatrix on Oct 14, 2010 16:06:22 GMT -5
I'm quite pleased by that name, too. Oh, TV Tropes, how I adore thee.
I... hm. I don't get crushes on fictional characters--or real people, either, as far as I can tell--but I do occasionally experience the urge to give a particular character a gigantic hug. I identify as aromantic, but I find the whole question of romantic attachment confusing and difficult to define.
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Post by you*hear*but*do*you*listen on Oct 15, 2010 14:22:19 GMT -5
I really couldn't tell you whether "perverse asexual cuddlelust" is supposed to refer to romantic attraction or just aesthetic attraction. Sometimes I get what I call cuddle-crushes on people I like as friends because they look cozy, but it's nothing romantic. I'm homoromantic, but I've only ever crushed on one fictional character...eh...yeah, sorry, I just don't know. :/ Considering the TV Tropes page says that "perverse asexual cuddlelust" means desiring friendship, romance, or just a friendly hug, I think the "cuddlelust" could be romantic or aromantic.
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Post by ocelotofdoom on Oct 16, 2010 2:03:58 GMT -5
...Yeah, I realized after the fact that the TVTropes definition was rather broad...
From my somewhat ridiculously vast experience with the phenomenon, I have noticed that in my experience it isn't aesthetic attraction. While a character's facial expressions can endear me to them, that usually only happens once I already know and like something about them. I know I've had times where I've gone from having a first impression of "Meh, who's that dude and why's he in my story?" to "*squee* OMGIMUSTHUGANDGIVECUDDLESNOW" based on what I learn about that character and their personality over the course of the story. I find it odd that I have never had that same strong reaction to anyone in real life.
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Post by murray on Nov 3, 2010 0:26:34 GMT -5
If this refers to wanting to hug/cuddle fictional characters, then no. If it means being kind of obsessed with them for a period of time, then...I'm not admitted to anything.
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Post by sciatrix on Nov 4, 2010 18:47:39 GMT -5
See, I've never done the obsessed with fictional characters thing at all. Which is unusual for me, because I do have some pretty strong obsessive interest patterns. If I do start developing a mental obsession with a story, it's much more likely for me to be about some sort of worldbuilding characteristic than a character per se.
On the other hand, I am also likely in meatspace to lunge at people occasionally without warning and hug them, especially if I'm in a specific mood. I wonder if this sort of trait is just an extension of the sort of behaviors we apply to meatspace people?
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Post by you*hear*but*do*you*listen on Nov 4, 2010 20:27:49 GMT -5
Meatspace...I like that term.
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Post by sciatrix on Nov 4, 2010 20:54:51 GMT -5
I tend to think "real life" devalues Internet relationships, and given the amount of time I spend on the Net talking to people, I'm not too big a fan of that. I'd rather use "meatspace."
Plus then I can go around yelling "THEY'RE MADE OF MEAT!" in my head, like the gigantic dork I am.
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Post by murray on Nov 4, 2010 23:01:38 GMT -5
People are annoyingly meaty. That's why I don't like to hug them! Because they're all squishy and soft and unstable and shifting and fleshy....what is so nice about that? I don't understand. Give me a watermelon to cuddle any day.
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Post by demacrux on Feb 19, 2011 16:41:54 GMT -5
Indeed meatspace is a term I'm fond of as well..back to the topic of Perverse Asexual Cuddlelust..I have so much this that it often crosses the line into just falling for these characters..but I think that's something else.Nothing similar in real life lately though.
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Post by eyuhasiyvep on Jul 16, 2019 21:47:24 GMT -5
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