No, not a guide on how to come out, but one on how to be come out to.
I was kicking around the idea of writing a guide aimed at non-asexuals on a 101 level on how to respond if an asexual person comes out to you. Something along the lines of A Straight Person's Guide to Gay Etiquette, but more geared at specifically asexual issues. I was meaning to write it for National Coming Out Day, but... well, as the fact that I'm typing this now implies, it definitely didn't get done in time. I ended up shoving it off to the side in favor of writing about something else.
And then Ily posted about something similar over on her blog here, and I thought I'd try to do it again.
Except I'm kind of stuck for ideas, and I'd rather do something like this as a collaborative or semi-collaborative project anyway. I've gotten as far as linking to the aforementioned guide and mentioning the parallels, and also to listing some of the unfortunate common responses and explaining why they're rude, but I'm not quite sure how to go from there. Does anyone have any ideas on things to put in there?
Post by you*hear*but*do*you*listen on Oct 16, 2010 20:02:13 GMT -5
I think this is a fantastic idea. I'll try to come up with something after midterms are over (right now I'm in the middle of a studying session that has lasted nine hours straight with the exception of dinner).
"Anything can be a weapon if you're holding it right." --Ludo
Honestly, for me it's on the back burner for right now, too. It's my midterm season right now, and I have too much to write about otherwise to handle something as... tricky? as this, especially by myself.
Post by ocelotofdoom on Dec 23, 2010 4:52:53 GMT -5
Let me know if I can do anything to help. I have a couple weeks of freedom from law school.
"Never forget what you are, for surely the world will not. Make it your strength. Then it can never be your weakness. Armor yourself in it, and it will never be used to hurt you." -Tyrion Lannister, A Song of Ice and Fire.
I will! Right now I'm trying to make sure I get all the obvious problematic questions--whether you masturbate, whether you've been abused, whether you're in a phase--as well as the silly-stupid ones, like asexually reproducing. I think that's the biggest thing I could use work on.
Incidentally, just as a heads-up, SlightlyMetaphysical is bandying about plans to make a static 101-level introduction to asexuality completely separate from AVEN along the lines of Finally, A Feminism 101. He's trying to find people to collaborate on that at the moment. If you've got any ideas, let him know?
Last Edit: Dec 23, 2010 11:16:48 GMT -5 by sciatrix