There's been a lot of fuckery over on AVEN lately. Mostly in terms of transphobia and ableism and ageism that I've seen in the past week. And I'm not at all certain it will be handled by anyone in authority. Last I heard when asking the mods to either step in or take out the anti-discrimination parts of the TOS, I was getting told that educating bigots was valued over freezing threads like this--by a person whose only contribution to any of the threads I was discussing was to essentially come in and say "I hope we can all get along." I'm also hearing that I was just misreading one of the threads I linked to, a thread whose title alone has been enough to upset me for an entire week.
I have been existing in a state of feeling powerless and upset over the past several days. I am exhausted and angry. I am evaluating (again) whether or not I'm permanently done with AVEN, and it will probably come down to how the mods eventually officially respond. Because it cannot be up to the members here. There's too few of us.
And I wanted to say that I am so, so grateful that this forum exists. Because I really trust the people involved in it to not tolerate this kind of shit. And to make a space which is genuinely safe for the rest of us rather than allowing bigotry its "say." Thank you for providing this space. It means a lot to me to have it.
Post by you*hear*but*do*you*listen on Oct 28, 2010 13:12:28 GMT -5
You're very welcome, Sciatrix. I made this board for the express purpose of getting away from AVEN fuckery. Although if there's anyone else on AVEN who might be fed up with the bigotry, please feel free to invite them. Also, could you link me to some of the annoying AVEN threads? I've been avoiding AVEN lately.
They're pretty much all contained in the (very upset) post I made here. At this point, I have nothing left to give to discussing the actual thread after having made it and I'm avoiding the site for the next several days because it's really fucking with my mental health right now. So god knows what's going on in it.
Post by you*hear*but*do*you*listen on Oct 28, 2010 20:24:04 GMT -5
UGH. I have always been very, very annoyed by pay it forward, but now I cannot freaking believe that he hasn't been warned yet. Maybe I should report those posts he made...I got fridayoak banned by reporting him earlier this year. Christ on a carousel pony, this is awful. :/
Edit: oh hell yes I am reporting pay it forward. He's being a prick and even admitted it himself.
Post by noelandvoid on Nov 3, 2010 17:34:57 GMT -5
Ugggggggh. Yes, thank you so much for creating this board. It's one thing when someone who has been a long-time loyal member is being troublesome since I trust they may still have loyalty to the community and aren't deliberately trying to "troll" or anything like that... But, well, not to name any names or be accusatory but I couldn't help but notice some of the people making trouble right now on Aven are people who have had at least one dramatic delete-my-account-I'm-never-comjng-back flounce in the last year or so, if not multiple ones. I just can't help but be suspicious of their intentions as of late with that in mind.