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Post by sciatrix on Nov 26, 2010 18:47:46 GMT -5
...dammit, then what is secondary sexual attraction? Sexual attraction requiring strong emotional connection? I may still be primed from Rabger's bloody model here, but I don't actually remember the definition for secondary sexual attraction.
(And I'm not meaning to say I "disagree" with demisexuality, just that I think it's a term which has a lot of problems with definition.)
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Post by you*hear*but*do*you*listen on Nov 27, 2010 1:12:58 GMT -5
...dammit, then what is secondary sexual attraction? Sexual attraction requiring strong emotional connection? I may still be primed from Rabger's bloody model here, but I don't actually remember the definition for secondary sexual attraction. (And I'm not meaning to say I "disagree" with demisexuality, just that I think it's a term which has a lot of problems with definition.) Secondary sexual desire: the desire to engage in sexual activity solely for the sake of the happiness of the other person involved, or for another ulterior motive such as the conception of children Secondary sexual attraction: an attraction that develops over time based on a person's relationship and emotional connection with another person
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Post by brianarbenz on May 22, 2012 13:19:29 GMT -5
I have identified as a gray for only about a year, so I'm still figuring what to tell others my orientation is. I think saying "gray with exceptions" could sound like a come-on line.
So, for that matter, could telling someone that I am asexual because of emotional difficulties in my life. I don't think my asexuality is an innate condition, but it is so ingrained -- because of so many decades of habits and a badly damaged self concept -- that it is for all purposes fixed.
Try telling someone that story and not come accross as trying to pick them up by playing on their sympathies.
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Post by anhamirak on Oct 28, 2013 3:40:37 GMT -5
It seems to be pretty common for people to say "well, all women are demisexual!" for one thing,. I've had people give me this response when explaining asexuality in general. Of course, it's only heterosexual men who have said that to me, so I just laugh and tell them that it's not that all women are demi, it's just that most of them aren't willing to have men believe otherwise, and that men would be shocked at some of the things I've heard those supposedly ace women say on the topic of sex during 'girls' nights.'
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