I've always thought of grey-A as "not technically asexual, but has a lot of things in common with asexuals" or else "experiences sexual attraction but very rarely or only in uncommon types of situations."
Similar to the dual definition model... Gray-A: 1. Someone who experiences sexual attraction with low frequency, low intensity, in narrow circumstances, or ambiguously. 2. Someone who identifies as gray-A.
I know the wiki says that gray-A encompasses people who are technically sexual and functionally asexual, but I'm not entirely sure how that would work. Why use such an obscure label, when more common and accurate ones are available, like "celibate"? Nonetheless, I'm sure that someone will come up with a reason to use it that way.
Post by epochryphal on Jan 31, 2011 5:02:51 GMT -5
I like the dual definition a lot. I also appreciate the way the wiki has multiple examples of ways of being. I don't think that should be limited to greys; many definitions could benefit from demonstrating diversity.
siggy - I might be considered technically sexual? I am still figuring things out and it is somewhat confusing. Grey-A feels safer; it gives me disclaimers all around, and doesn't come across as "just confused" (which, no, is not quite accurate, as I'm certain directions of confused). The grey nicely indexes the murkiness.
At any rate, regardless of how my grey/a/sexuality comes out of this process, I've actively disidentified with sexual culture enough, and that fact is important enough to me, that I expect I will continue to use Grey-A as a useful and meaningful descriptor. It has to do with origins more than traits, for me, I suppose. Which terms are obscure and which accessible are very contextual, yes?
Post by you*hear*but*do*you*listen on Feb 16, 2011 11:44:22 GMT -5
I'm starting to think there are so many ways to be gray-A that it's really hard to define; I've been saying that since sexuality is a spectrum, gray-As are on the "nebulous to nonexistent" border between asexual and sexual.
"Anything can be a weapon if you're holding it right." --Ludo
Similar to the dual definition model... Gray-A: 1. Someone who experiences sexual attraction with low frequency, low intensity, in narrow circumstances, or ambiguously.
I identify as gray-A because of that definition right there (except I would change the "or" to "and" when talking about myself). It's a frustrating and confusing place to be sometimes, both because it's a hard-to-define position (even in my own head), and because its ambiguity is used by others to try to "prove" that I'm not asexual, even though I identify way more with that perspective than the sexual one. Blargh.