Post by you*hear*but*do*you*listen on Mar 18, 2011 13:33:38 GMT -5
Specifically, heterosexuals who don't understand how much heterosexual privilege sucks for non-straights piss me off. When heterosexuals whine about how it's stupid that they shouldn't do things like flaunting their engagement rings or sitting down a non-straight to drool over pics of their biological offspring for three hours...it just raises my hackles. Same with people who call queer pride "stupid" when it's an attempt to convince the world that we're not inherently wrong. This kind of thing makes me want to start saying things like "fuck you and the horse you rode in on" and start using words like "breeder."
"Anything can be a weapon if you're holding it right." --Ludo
Post by ocelotofdoom on Mar 18, 2011 15:00:23 GMT -5
On the one hand, I'm tempted to say that we shouldn't generalize here, just as a kneejerk reaction. That being said, I'm a heteroromantic ace, and "normal" heterosexuality and straight relationships (or at least how they're portrayed in the culture... primarily associating with a bunch of queer geeks makes it hard for me to tell the difference sometimes) are really alienating to me and sometimes make me want to avoid thinking of having a relationship ever again.
"Never forget what you are, for surely the world will not. Make it your strength. Then it can never be your weakness. Armor yourself in it, and it will never be used to hurt you." -Tyrion Lannister, A Song of Ice and Fire.
Agreed. I had a discussion with a friend about my issues with the privileged position of marriage in our culture and legislation, and while she agreed in a sort of hand-wringy abstract way she kept coming back to this point that some benefits make sense to be confined to marriage (I was open to changing my mind, but she couldn't give me a clear reason why some of her examples couldn't work just as easily for friends, or any other relationship) and she eventually made some point that if I want those benefits I still have the option to get married - it doesn't have to be a romantic thing. She didn't get why that sentiment in particular infuriated me.
It probably wouldn't have annoyed me so much, but she's a feminist (actually played a large role in turning me feminist), so for her to be so dismissive of her privilege in this area is especially exasperating.