Post by ettina on Dec 7, 2012 7:18:28 GMT -5
OK, I tried to join AVEN awhile back, and kind of got into a fight with some people there and left. But I would really like some people I can ask about asexual-related stuff, if they will be accepting of me.
I'm asexual and nonlibidoist. And before you assume anything, this doesn't mean I think sex is a bad thing, or that libidoist asexuals are 'tainted', or anything like that. I don't think I'm better or worse than any other orientation (except ones that cause harm, like pedophilia).
I don't think calling myself 'nonlibidoist' is silly. It doesn't just mean I don't masturbate and don't enjoy masturbation. It means that I have never felt any feeling that resembles what people refer to as 'sexual' feelings. Which means that I can't conceive of what those feel like. It's like the difference between totally blind and legally blind. One of those can see but it makes no practical difference, the other can't see at all and probably has no framework to really understand what seeing is. Personally, if I had my choice, I'd be a libidoist asexual, because it would make my creative writing easier when I try to write about sexuality.
I don't want to get into fights with people about what is 'real' asexuality. I just want to find someone out there who understands what it's like for sexuality to be completely and utterly foreign to me.
I'm asexual and nonlibidoist. And before you assume anything, this doesn't mean I think sex is a bad thing, or that libidoist asexuals are 'tainted', or anything like that. I don't think I'm better or worse than any other orientation (except ones that cause harm, like pedophilia).
I don't think calling myself 'nonlibidoist' is silly. It doesn't just mean I don't masturbate and don't enjoy masturbation. It means that I have never felt any feeling that resembles what people refer to as 'sexual' feelings. Which means that I can't conceive of what those feel like. It's like the difference between totally blind and legally blind. One of those can see but it makes no practical difference, the other can't see at all and probably has no framework to really understand what seeing is. Personally, if I had my choice, I'd be a libidoist asexual, because it would make my creative writing easier when I try to write about sexuality.
I don't want to get into fights with people about what is 'real' asexuality. I just want to find someone out there who understands what it's like for sexuality to be completely and utterly foreign to me.