Am I asexual?

[baffledowl1970]

Hi all

I'm a 41 year old gay female who thinks she might be asexual. I have Asperger's, schizophrenia and diabetes, if it's relevant.

I'm in a relationship with a woman, but it hasn't been sexual since 2008. This doesn't bother me at all. In fact, the sexual side died very quickly - although I mostly enjoyed it, I was relieved when it stopped. I began to find it tiresome after a month or so (not to mention it gave me performance anxiety). We don't live together, and some people have said they don't understand how I can be happy in a relationship without "sex on tap".

I've had many crushes and been "in love" a number of times, but there's never been a sexual component to them. This hadn't dawned on me until recently.

I've seen plenty of people who I think are hot to look at, but don't want to have sex with. I do masturbate rarely, and will watch sex on TV (but increasingly, the latter doesn't have much effect on me). I can quite happily see myself never having sex again.

Do I fit the bill?

All the best
BaffledOwl1970

[lydzzz]

I'm fourteen years old and lately I've been wondering if I'm asexual. I've never had any sexual attraction towards anyone even though I am interested in sexual activity one I'm older, but I can't see myself being sexually attracted towards anyone. Romantically, I haven't had a crush on anyone in about a year that wasn't me trying to convince myself to like someone, and even crushes before now I wasn't really romantically attracted towards the person, it might have been more of a friend crush even if I did want to initiate a romantic relationship with that person. I've never been in a relationship before. Am I asexual, or aromantic, or is it just normal for my age like I've been told? (It felt good to get this off my chest since I haven't been able to properly verbally articulate my thoughts to anyone.)